si vous ne trouvez pas les mots…
si la mémoire vous joue un tour…
si le cœur
n’y est pas…
respirez…fermez les yeux…
et pensez…a la beauté des roses…
à la sérénité de la nuit…
pensez à la profondeur de la mer..
à l’amour enfuit…
pensez aux personnes chers..
et à la pureté de la pluie…
pensez à la beauté de la terre…
et à ce que je vous dit !!!!!
moi mes cher Amis je le fais aussi !!!

JADE

C’est magnifique ! je viens de le découvrir !

JE VOUS LE DEDIE!!!!! Bisous à toutes et tous ! Je vous aime!!!!!!!

Nadine

I grew up in an environment of anger and hate. Everyday was scary and uncertain for my siblings and I. The safety of our mother, the safety for us kids. It was ugly, enough said. I did, however, find ways to deal. As a kid it was instinctual, the ways I dealt. It taught me love, which I wasn’t feeling from my father. My way to deal was simple. I found a connection to nature. I spent half my childhood in the woods behind our house. In these woods I found ‘friends’. Things and creatures I bonded with. Things I ‘loved’. Things I felt ‘loved’ me back. It was my first ‘connection’ to everything that is. Oneness. I realized from me right on down to the tiniest little bug that we were all connected. As an adult I apply the same principals with human beings.
Love, yes it is our greatest power. It’s something we are all capable of. It gives back so much when you put love out there. It is very fulfilling. If you have awareness that we are all ‘one’ then love comes easy.
Not one person or animal or insect on this planet ‘chose’ to be here (unless, ofcourse, there is a choice in the hereafter beyond time and space?) We have to look at it like we are all in the same boat. All going to the same place. We are all one. Not one person is better than another. Money, fame, possessions… all of those things become meaningless when you face death. It’s the ‘basics’ that matter. A connection to earth. As PMG says “plugged into a part of the phenomenon of existence. A part of a cycle. If you feel this ‘oneness’ it takes away alot of fear. We’re all in this together..let’s love one another…it feels real nice..xocarol Hi everyone!

The same goes to Paul, Pam and fellow bloggers.
xx

the same happens in the first period after you have lost a loved one…the first year.
You remember what s/he would have done/said on certain occasions. You wonder what s/he would have said/done in other circumstances. You mark the anniversaries – the birthdays the deathdays as well as any others that you shared in your lives (weddings whatever)and you project that s/he would have loved/hated this/that.
Are these memories? Are they our interpretation or are they a reliable recollection.
Paul uses the idea of re-membering I would like to ass another term to the process…that of re-collection. The gathering of those experiences and ‘memories’ that influence our re-membering our piecing together the past and the indications of the future that this will give us.
If we can re-collect ourselves ‘get our heads/selves together’ then we are better equipped to re-member. We have accumulated the information that makes it possible.
By meditating; by thinking and considering and exploring the thoughts and experiences that contribute to our being, our state of existence, by ‘collecting’ the ‘remembrances’ we can equip ourselves to filter out that which needs out deeper analysis – our thought – our remembering – and that which has become irrelevant to our well being – our mental and emotional health. We learn what to ‘dwell on’ and what to move on from.
In the grief of loss if is not always easy to make the distinctions.
In our journey forward we have to learn what to leave behind and what to carry with us – which memories to hold close to our hearts and which to say ‘that happened; it hurt, I learnt …. from it; it has helped me to become the me I am today and no longer the me I was the day that I lost him/her.
It would be wrong to reject the memory; it would be impossible not to mark the date the moment in our hearts….
but each time, after that painful miserable first time; we can move on if we re-member the even and re-collect the lessons.

I’ve had too much wine…I hope that made sense

You have a great way of looking at things my friend.
Is it though sometimes possible to over think things? I tend to mull over everything to a point where I usually tie myself in knots!. Are there always answers?. Maybe, but what are the chances of finding them? and if we did would the answer then bring us closure or would it lead to more questions being asked?. I think if you can think things through and then let it go, view it as sorted and file it away in the back of our brain some where that’s great. But sometimes a problem can’t be sorted because the person/people are no longer around to ask. You are then left guessing, and second guessing, and the thoughts are all your own. Would the other person involved have thought the way you do? Is this making any sense? goodness knows but there is a real tendency to over think and analyse instead of going with the flow. Having said that I still haven’t learned to do that lol. I always tend to think that there are always more questions than answers. Another point of view is that some things get buried so deep in our memories or should that be sub conscious mind that we would do anything than to go back to those thoughts/feelings again. Looking back we tend to see things all rosy and cosy to a point, because our minds want us to remember the good times. Lets just try to erase the bad, pretend that never happened, and all will be ok.
Gladys Knight just went through my head there,
if you take a listen to ‘The way we were’ and ‘Neither one of us’ it proves a point, two of the best love songs ever written in my opinion. Most of us will connect a song to a time/person in our lives. Interesting how our minds do that huh?.
Best wishes,
Christine.xx

”Our opportunity is to practice seeing our sensations, emotions, thoughts, as experiences that are there to re-mind us of our conscious and aware state. When we can remember that, and we re-member the sensation of being plugged into, a part of the phenomenon of existence.”

yep,
agree with every word,
and WHEN you feel that sensation there is NOTHING like it, its those times that you try to accumulate, store, and strive to repeat !!.
That’s the basics of life(IMO).
I feel that life is so fast,that instead of all the Hi-Tec Gadgets making life easier and giving us “Quality Time” they speed life up so much that almost everyone Knows at least one person who suffers from the “S” word, STRESS.

Hope everyone has a great (stress-free) weekend

Take Care.

We need to remember…and to re-member. To think back and to piece together what we learn.
Not easy
Not easy
…but putting the pieces together may bring peace

along with this statement:”Our opportunity is to practice seeing our sensations, emotions, thoughts, as experiences that are there to re-mind us of our conscious and aware state. When we can remember that, and we re-member the sensation of being plugged into, a part of the phenomenon of existence.”

Hmmm..just thinking about this one today….