Comments on: On the other hand… http://www.paulmichaelglaser.org/blog/2010/02/on-the-other-hand/ Shared Thoughts and discussion with Paul Michael Glaser Thu, 09 Sep 2010 16:56:16 -0600 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Christine http://www.paulmichaelglaser.org/blog/2010/02/on-the-other-hand/comment-page-3/#comment-859 Christine Wed, 03 Mar 2010 19:52:00 +0000 http://www.paulmichaelglaser.org/blog/?p=75#comment-859 Hi Marly, Thank you, your support is appreciated, you take care too. Christine. Hi Marly,
Thank you, your support is appreciated, you take care too.
Christine.

]]> By: marly http://www.paulmichaelglaser.org/blog/2010/02/on-the-other-hand/comment-page-3/#comment-857 marly Wed, 03 Mar 2010 18:21:18 +0000 http://www.paulmichaelglaser.org/blog/?p=75#comment-857 Dear Christine, So glad to hear that your friend is doing so much better! Take care, Marly Dear Christine,

So glad to hear that your friend is doing so much better!

Take care,
Marly

]]> By: Sammy http://www.paulmichaelglaser.org/blog/2010/02/on-the-other-hand/comment-page-3/#comment-847 Sammy Tue, 02 Mar 2010 18:56:06 +0000 http://www.paulmichaelglaser.org/blog/?p=75#comment-847 Talk about spin offs.. Started off with death, life, fear, and deviated to anonymity and ended up with blog security, friendship, trust … Still there is a lot more to say in all these matters. This is the beauty of a discussion as I see it. One cannot build walls around one topic and limit his/herself just to that because we are human. Our thoughts wonder from one to another but yet everything is connected in some way. I am not saying that focusing on one point is bad; however, it is also more educational, fun and vivid when you consider all other aspects that tag along with it. I always enjoy and learn more when there are differences among ideas, thoughts. While you always feel connected to someone with the same ideology when someone with a different view comes along that make the discussion all more interesting and fun. Afterall … the world would have been a very dull place to live if all of us had the same views or thoughts and liked the same things :-( I am definitely enjoying it Christine. The sense of acceptance and friendship are two of the most important aspects in life. Thank you so much for the kind wishes Hilda. Work work work- got to go! Lunch break (10min is all what it takes for me) is over. Talk about spin offs.. Started off with death, life, fear, and deviated to anonymity and ended up with blog security, friendship, trust … Still there is a lot more to say in all these matters. This is the beauty of a discussion as I see it.

One cannot build walls around one topic and limit his/herself just to that because we are human. Our thoughts wonder from one to another but yet everything is connected in some way. I am not saying that focusing on one point is bad; however, it is also more educational, fun and vivid when you consider all other aspects that tag along with it. I always enjoy and learn more when there are differences among ideas, thoughts. While you always feel connected to someone with the same ideology when someone with a different view comes along that make the discussion all more interesting and fun. Afterall … the world would have been a very dull place to live if all of us had the same views or thoughts and liked the same things :-(

I am definitely enjoying it Christine. The sense of acceptance and friendship are two of the most important aspects in life.

Thank you so much for the kind wishes Hilda.

Work work work- got to go! Lunch break (10min is all what it takes for me) is over.

]]> By: marly http://www.paulmichaelglaser.org/blog/2010/02/on-the-other-hand/comment-page-3/#comment-846 marly Tue, 02 Mar 2010 16:14:31 +0000 http://www.paulmichaelglaser.org/blog/?p=75#comment-846 Dear Hilda, Thank you so much. All the best to you! Marly Dear Hilda,

Thank you so much.
All the best to you!

Marly

]]> By: Christine http://www.paulmichaelglaser.org/blog/2010/02/on-the-other-hand/comment-page-3/#comment-841 Christine Mon, 01 Mar 2010 23:22:38 +0000 http://www.paulmichaelglaser.org/blog/?p=75#comment-841 Hi Hilda, Thank you and God bless you too. Hi Sammy, Isn't it nice to feel that trust? Hi Rach, I agree, theres some lovely people on here. xx Hi Hilly, It is a compliment to a caring, compassionate man, we trust Paul; then trust each other! Aren't we enjoying it too! Hi Hilda,
Thank you and God bless you too.

Hi Sammy, Isn’t it nice to feel that trust?

Hi Rach, I agree, theres some lovely people on here. xx

Hi Hilly,
It is a compliment to a caring, compassionate man, we trust Paul; then trust each other! Aren’t we enjoying it too!

]]> By: hilly http://www.paulmichaelglaser.org/blog/2010/02/on-the-other-hand/comment-page-2/#comment-836 hilly Mon, 01 Mar 2010 20:39:24 +0000 http://www.paulmichaelglaser.org/blog/?p=75#comment-836 Christine, Sammy Some others here know what I'm referring to (and we'll leave it at that)when I say that the feeling of 'safety' here is important to many of us. I admit that the responses on some of Paul's earlier thoughts made me sniff the air like a cat and wonder if the trolls were coming out from under their rocks. It seems now that if they were they lost interest. Maybe they weren't there at all and I was just scared of shadows. Or maybe they were testing the water and decided to leave when they realised what sincerity there is on these threads. I think that this is because there is a solidarity amongst those of us who are genuinely interested in developing our approach and our paths on the journey that is life. And maybe it is a great compliment to Paul that under his influence we feel safe and are ready to talk about what is going on in that strange borderland between our hearts and out minds. Softly: I'm going to write this out and tack it on my wall: <i>I can’t deny denial, although the nature of denial is to deny.</i> Christine, Sammy
Some others here know what I’m referring to (and we’ll leave it at that)when I say that the feeling of ‘safety’ here is important to many of us.
I admit that the responses on some of Paul’s earlier thoughts made me sniff the air like a cat and wonder if the trolls were coming out from under their rocks. It seems now that if they were they lost interest. Maybe they weren’t there at all and I was just scared of shadows.
Or maybe they were testing the water and decided to leave when they realised what sincerity there is on these threads.
I think that this is because there is a solidarity amongst those of us who are genuinely interested in developing our approach and our paths on the journey that is life. And maybe it is a great compliment to Paul that under his influence we feel safe and are ready to talk about what is going on in that strange borderland between our hearts and out minds.

Softly: I’m going to write this out and tack it on my wall:
I can’t deny denial, although the nature of denial is to deny.

]]> By: Rachelle http://www.paulmichaelglaser.org/blog/2010/02/on-the-other-hand/comment-page-2/#comment-835 Rachelle Mon, 01 Mar 2010 20:34:18 +0000 http://www.paulmichaelglaser.org/blog/?p=75#comment-835 Yes I agree there is a really great group of people on this shared thoughts blog. :) I've been lucky to make some nice friends on here! Sammy - I have to agree with your "Ahhh Monday" comment.*g* You're so right!! Hilda - Thanks for the kind wishes for us. Rach :) Yes I agree there is a really great group of people on this shared thoughts blog. :) I’ve been lucky to make some nice friends on here!
Sammy – I have to agree with your “Ahhh Monday” comment.*g* You’re so right!!
Hilda – Thanks for the kind wishes for us.

Rach :)

]]> By: Sammy http://www.paulmichaelglaser.org/blog/2010/02/on-the-other-hand/comment-page-2/#comment-834 Sammy Mon, 01 Mar 2010 18:43:02 +0000 http://www.paulmichaelglaser.org/blog/?p=75#comment-834 Hi Christine... Right on target- I believe you when you say that one develops a kind of trust in here. I haven't felt comfortable in writing anything on a blog or other related web forum before this. I have to thank Michael (I mean Paul.. I keep on mentioning his second name all the time), Pam, and rest of the bloggers who are in here for that feeling of security. Ofcourse you never can tell about those who read the blog but never join in any conversations but that 'unknown factor' is unavoidable not just in a blog but anywhere else too. Hi Christine…
Right on target- I believe you when you say that one develops a kind of trust in here. I haven’t felt comfortable in writing anything on a blog or other related web forum before this. I have to thank Michael (I mean Paul.. I keep on mentioning his second name all the time), Pam, and rest of the bloggers who are in here for that feeling of security. Ofcourse you never can tell about those who read the blog but never join in any conversations but that ‘unknown factor’ is unavoidable not just in a blog but anywhere else too.

]]> By: Christine http://www.paulmichaelglaser.org/blog/2010/02/on-the-other-hand/comment-page-2/#comment-831 Christine Mon, 01 Mar 2010 15:52:01 +0000 http://www.paulmichaelglaser.org/blog/?p=75#comment-831 Hi Sammy, You are so right, it would be nice to know what other's think of us after reading our blogs! I guess we all read each other's experiences and we will all form some sort of opinion on one another. Is that the same as judging? No, I think there is a slight difference in trying to work out what makes a person tick and judging them to be right/wrong etc. When Paul commented on how we are still visible even on here; to me I find it easier to discuss things on here than I do face to face at times. For instance, standing at a bus stop I would not turn to the nearest person to me and tell them my worries. Why? What is the difference between discussing it with him/her than writing it on here? To me the answer is simple. I always get the feeling that either Paul or another blogger will understand, theres a trust here.Hopefully then I/we can try in turn to help other's. Not because I think that I won't get to heaven etc if I don't do some good, just a basic human need to want to connect and share. I guess we all value our privacy, there are things none of us would discuss on here, because its just too personal; these are the things our husband/wife best friends know; we have that important trust.There is no 'fear' they might let us down. I guess we all give as much or as little of ourselves on here depending on how much we want people to know, judge? us. While still holding on tight to our all important privacy. With love as always Christine. xx Hi Sammy,
You are so right, it would be nice to know what other’s think of us after reading our blogs! I guess we all read each other’s experiences and we will all form some sort of opinion on one another. Is that the same as judging? No, I think there is a slight difference in trying to work out what makes a person tick and judging them to be right/wrong etc.
When Paul commented on how we are still visible even on here; to me I find it easier to discuss things on here than I do face to face at times.
For instance, standing at a bus stop I would not turn to the nearest person to me and tell them my worries. Why? What is the difference between discussing it with him/her than writing it on here? To me the answer is simple. I always get the feeling that either Paul or another blogger will understand, theres a trust here.Hopefully then I/we can try in turn to help other’s. Not because I think that I won’t get to heaven etc if I don’t do some good, just a basic human need to want to connect and share.
I guess we all value our privacy, there are things none of us would discuss on here, because its just too personal; these are the things our husband/wife best friends know; we have that important trust.There is no ‘fear’ they might let us down.
I guess we all give as much or as little of ourselves on here depending on how much we want people to know, judge? us. While still holding on tight to our all important privacy.
With love as always Christine. xx

]]> By: Softly http://www.paulmichaelglaser.org/blog/2010/02/on-the-other-hand/comment-page-2/#comment-830 Softly Mon, 01 Mar 2010 15:02:07 +0000 http://www.paulmichaelglaser.org/blog/?p=75#comment-830 Dear Mr. Glaser, As promised in my earlier post, here my discoveries on denial so far. I can’t deny denial, although the nature of denial is to deny. If I would let her have her way she would deny everything, even her own existence. She is a cunning one; she is a master of trickery and skillfully plays with mirrors and veils. So who is she, what is her purpose? Denial is my ego’s over protective mother trying to shield it from painful sights and harmful thoughts. Her purpose is to keep my ones so carefully constructed ego intact. She came into existence when I needed a security blanket, a place to hide in times when the world became too scary and confusing. Over the years I’ve learned to recognize her as the uncomfortable feeling of being smothered, as an allergic reaction to her injustice towards my authentic self. I must admit she still comes in handy when I need some time to think. But I try to shed her veil as soon as possible how ever painful that might be; although her injustice is always more painful than the naked truth about myself. I do wonder will I always feel her presence, or is she cunning enough to hide even from the mirror? I wonder is my allergic reaction towards others when they are in obvious denial not just recognition of a denial within me? Lifting veils and forever learning, Softly Dear Mr. Glaser,

As promised in my earlier post, here my discoveries on denial so far.

I can’t deny denial, although the nature of denial is to deny. If I would let her have her way she would deny everything, even her own existence. She is a cunning one; she is a master of trickery and skillfully plays with mirrors and veils.

So who is she, what is her purpose?
Denial is my ego’s over protective mother trying to shield it from painful sights and harmful thoughts. Her purpose is to keep my ones so carefully constructed ego intact. She came into existence when I needed a security blanket, a place to hide in times when the world became too scary and confusing. Over the years I’ve learned to recognize her as the uncomfortable feeling of being smothered, as an allergic reaction to her injustice towards my authentic self.

I must admit she still comes in handy when I need some time to think. But I try to shed her veil as soon as possible how ever painful that might be; although her injustice is always more painful than the naked truth about myself.

I do wonder will I always feel her presence, or is she cunning enough to hide even from the mirror?

I wonder is my allergic reaction towards others when they are in obvious denial not just recognition of a denial within me?

Lifting veils and forever learning,

Softly

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